No fucking offense but wtf is up with the highly misogynistic posts about pregnant women in attempts to be funny on here? Like misogyny ok with yall as long as it’s funny now? Like look I get that straight pregnant white women can be obnoxious as hell but like shits weird how vitriolic some of yall seem about it in general. It also feels laced with blatant child hate too. Especially how one of these post is equating pregnant women to pregnant dogs like wtf?
Like cis pregnant women still dont deserve to have nasty misogyny directed at them because they inconvenience you or annoy you. Pregnancy is actually an incredibly arduous, tumultuous, and even traumatic experience for people. I’ve had to witness my mom and my sisters go through horrible things like miscarriage, bed rest (which no, isnt some vacation), life or death complications, and difficult births, so excuse pregnant women for lashing out every now and then while going through some super difficult shit. Like sure it sucks that cis women are often centered in discussions of pregnancy and parenthood but like that doesnt excuse blatant fucking misogyny.
To elaborate cause I’ve seen some people in notes saying they don’t know what I’m talking about, I’m talking about shit like this (which is like marginally tamer than some of the other shit I’ve seen before on here, this is just the most recent):
Like yes, I get the “satire” of both these statements but like I dont think equating pregnant women being happy to be having a child to your dog with worms (which they joked about in the notes of the first post) and reducing pregnant women to cum recepticals gets a “humor” pass. It’s just straight up fucking misogyny.
And before someone says some shit, yes it’s also internalized misogyny when straight cis women reduce their own pregnancies to being cum recepticals for their husbands as jokes for pregnancy announcements. They’re both bad, like hello. The second post especially is something that’s bothered me for years cause it’s shit I’d hear constantly in lgbt circles offline AND online, that or the constant dehumanization of women or even couples (be they straight or even biseuxal) by referring to them as “breeders”. I’ve had to remind people constantly that some cis women who have kids aren’t just straight white women and that, of course, not just cis perisex women are capable of being pregnant to get them to stop saying shit like this in front of me about pregnant people (and again, in this case women).
Like much of anything the experience of pregnancy has a lot of nuances to be considered. I think you all generally forget pregnant people and their children are vulnerable groups, and that does include cis women. People making the choice to keep their pregnancies means we also have to respect that choice just as much as we respect people who choose to have abortions and what pregnancy entails for their bodies and ultimately their children. That some of the people who make the choice to go through with their pregnancies are straight cis women, does not give anyone a pass to be misogynistic to them for it, whether its a misogyny that comes from an internalized place or is just blatant.
And as another user on this post also mentioned (snowburied is their url, please read their tags I think they’re a lovely addition), some of the people who make posts like this also neglect to realize that pregnant women are not all white and most definitely are not actually spoiled or accommodated for by society the way some of y'all begrudge them so harshly for, a bus seat is literally the least of their problems. This rings especially true for Black and other woc during pregnancy, like medical racism towards Black women especially is a fucking epidemic that has cost many Black women and their children their lives.
It does not take a massive amount of energy for you to think things through and not say shit like this. It really doesn’t and yet people who say shit like this think the people who find obvious problems with this are over sensitive/can’t take a joke or angry at them for irrelevant shit like using their identities as a shield. We are ALL capable of perpetuating misogyny; taking the time to hold ourselves accountable after we’ve been asked to be considerate of our words is not an attack, it’s a chance to do better. All I’m asking is that you fucking take it.
Best thing you can do for your art is to turn stabalizer all the way down and delete any references youre usong and close your eyes and make random strokes across the screen and open your eyes and make more random strokes and make it red and make it bleeding
